Are Marriages made in heaven? An institution called marriage is believed to be made by God and is the backbone of society. It defines our lives, ambitions, and aspirations.
Girls are conditioned since childhood to grow up into ideal wives and instructed to be a perfect wife, mother, daughter in law and many other roles.
The boys also are pressurized to fulfill his responsibility of taking care of his parents and his wife and children.
Especially in India, getting married at the right age and having children are the tasks that have to be taken up as a top priority.
If he or she sustains all the pressures of life and maintains a good relationship then their life is supposed to be successful.
The culture and tradition in India have no room for dysfunctional marriages. Even if there is a loveless alliance, still the woman has to suppress her feelings and be stuck in the house and relationship for the sake of her children. She can not think of a divorce. This has been carried down the ages.
When a marriage fails, priority is given to children and their rearing and not the emotions and likes of the parents. Men have always been able to enjoy their lives in spite of their failed marriages whereas women had no other choice but to stay back for the well being of children.
One question which surfaces now is can children lead a normal life when parents lead a toxic marriage? Will it affect the proper upbringing of the children?
The couple in such marriages sacrifice their happiness for their children but they should realize that the effect is certain on the children when they see the hostility which the parents carry and watching their parents at logger’s heads would cast an impression on their minds. The child would not have a normal childhood.
Instead of being in a toxic marriage and making convenient arrangements to raise children it would be better to take divorce and move on and share the responsibility and bring in mental peace and happiness and become better parents rather than being an unhappy woman or man.
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