The right handshake can make all the difference to your chances of success in a job interview, the right grip is the key: “If your hand is like a dead fish, no firmness, it shows lack of interest.” However, adopt too firm a grip and it may seem like you are trying to assert dominance, which likely won’t go down well either. Other sound advice is to not let the contact linger too long and to maintain a “safe” distance.
Here’s something on why we find awkward handshakes so unsettling. Abnormally long handshakes make people anxious and they are less likely to laugh in the following conversation.
A right handshake at the beginning and end of the Interview is very important. You should make eye contact and offer a firm handshake. It exhibits confidence and professionalism. If you feel that you are getting nervous and your palms are getting sweaty then please dry your hands as you wait in the reception area.
Regardless of whether you are interviewing with a man or woman, extend a firm handshake. In case during the interview, another Interviewer joins in, then stand and greet the other interviewer with a smile and firm handshake as well unless he asks you not to stand up.
A good handshake is an important skill to have in the Western world – people will judge you and make lasting first impressions based on your handshake.
Understand that a handshake involves a lot of things – facial expression and posture are also important.
If seated, stand up.
Look the person in the eye.
Smile – yet look serious.
Have a tall posture. Extend your right hand – with your fingers together and your thumb pointed up – this way you can minimize the chance that you fail to get a good connection when they take your hand.
Grip the other person’s hand FIRMLY (never give a floppy dead fish grip – this is the worst and will ruin you) – BUT do not crush their hand. Firm and confident – but not painful and crushing. Be aware some people may have arthritis or other hand pain issues – so generally don’t squeeze any harder they do – unless they are a dead fish hand shaker in which case you should show them you have superior confidence by being more firm.
Be genuine, stand tall, look them in the eye and say “it’s a pleasure to meet you”.
If a man shakes the hands of a woman, sometimes (depending upon the culture or personal preference) a woman may not offer a “full” hand shake, but only offer the end of her hand for a sort of “how do you do – you may kiss my hand” type of shake. In situations like this just adapt and do the best you can and grip her hand as offered in a similar fashion.
In certain cases, if you wish to show genuine enthusiasm, when in “full handshake” you can also use your left hand to cup the other persons hand between your two hands. But this should be accompanied by a big smile and enthusiasm.
No need to “shake” up and down a lot – just a basic grip with one or two shakes is enough.
Sometimes you encounter someone who really wants to size you up and will remain engaged in the “shake” for a long time. If this occurs just hang in there and maintain eye contact with a smile on your face.
Most important is how you offer eye contact, smile, and appear to be genuinely interested in the other person. Smile, as if being polite and genuine – not like a fool.
So ….. as you can see there is a lot involved. I recommend you practice this skill with people you know and trust. Ask them to give you feedback.
A good right handshake can mean the difference between getting and not getting a job offer, business agreement, or friendship – really – don’t under estimate its importance.
